90 Day rule response on Steve Harvey book from Mack

The 90 Day rule in Steve Harvey Book Response
Posted May 14
I know a lot have asked me my opinion so I might as well give a overall answer. This part of the book is the most bull%#&@$!ting advice I ever heard of to kiss a Oprah audience ass in the world. Steve book is a good book. I just disagree with this part of the book that might eventually do more harm than ever do good. I'm not telling people just to jump in the bed with whoever the first night. Im just saying thats cool for teenagers in high school and to some in college that might be out of control. If you have any common sense this depends only on age and maturity. This golden rule introduce in his book is a terrible outline for any relationship that will grow. The harm of wasting 90 days of your life whether male or female to find out the bedroom activities is terrible. It is almost like giving out a bad gift on christmas day that you cant return. If you feel that your instincts are good than you have no need for this rule at all. It doesnt matter if its 90 days or a week. If you are on your grown and sexy business. This rule will never apply. It sounds nice but lets be realistic. If you older you have wasted enough time. The personality is overriden by the bedroom for most people at 21. You can get a long with as many women as you want, but if that bedroom becomes cold. It is always going to end a relationship or cause someone to cheat to get that itch scratch. It isnt about your gender it is about your needs and wants. Forever is a long time to be getting the same stuff over and over and over again. It is your job to keep both sides of the fence in line. Dont get mad at the trespassers in the meantime. If you wait 90 days after a week of whether you or the person you are seeing is getting along expect to keep in mind that you two are seeing someone that can handle those needs in the meantime. I ask anyone this question. Have you played the wait game and than find out its terrible in the bedroom. Did it override your expectation of a long lasting relationship or have you quickly jumped on the fact of just being friends. I know it is one thing to work with someone on being better, but some people are use to their ways. Ill say if your partner is willing to try and give a good effort than say, but dont set yourself up to be in a relationship where the loving part is on a sour note. Rather be a friend than be a cheater. Ill say this go do what you want to do and find out your answers from the start. Have about 5 different questions that you must have answered without the part being none of your business. My top five questions before pursuing a long term endeavor are these... Do you love sex? Do you have goals and ambitions and can still maintain time daily for your private life? What are some things you will not do? Are you seeing anyone else other than me? Do you like to be told what to do or do you like to follow the lead? Are you a porn star type or a chuch missionary? Do you like to watch flicks? This question is key because it means they take time to learn new things and if they dont than obviously sex is not a big deal for them, but it might be for you. I dont mean sex I mean good sex! If whoever answers does not match up. I suggest that you dont set yourself up for a long lasting failure. These questions should be answered on the first meet. Its no point of wasting 90 days when you can get the answer all in one day. You can be spending the next 89 days finding someone that fits instead of acquit. lol the johnnie cochran phrase. If you cant take the time to enjoy pleasing yourself, than how in the hell are you going to please someone else.
Your future is held accountable for your present and your present is responsibility and acceptance of our past. Do not let your "no" be another person "yes" As kids we talk about what we will and wouldnt do as kids. As adults we look back at us being kids and laugh. So laugh and move on to being a Adult that makes Adult decisions.